What is the Best Thing I Can Do to Get My Ex Back?
The best thing is take this first step. After going through a breakup you’ve likely gone through a lot of painful soul-searching. The weight of sadness and depression has probably taken hold of your heart and you keep asking yourself, “What’s the best thing I can do to get my ex back?
There’s a tremendous amount of information online about getting back together, but first let’s explore your heart and your memory a bit. Can you remember when you first met your ex? What were some of the things you liked about them right off the bat? Do you recall some outstanding qualities or traits that caught your notice as you began to spend time together?
As time went on, did they reveal what first attracted them to you? Do you remember going out of your way to please them even when it was really difficult at times? How about surprises? Did they surprise you? How? And vice versa, did you surprise them? How?
What I’m getting at here is to have you recall the good and even great times you had together. Have you stopped reading this and purposely gone through your memory? If you haven’t yet, stop right now… and do it before you read any further.
Pause and remember. Write some notes about your memories.
Okay, I hope you recalled some pretty enjoyable memories. Now you could use that memory playback to get yourself depressed because you think it may be all gone. Cheer up baby, it’s not all gone. You just proved it. It’s still in your memory. Next is some really great news.
Believe it or not, your ex also has a memory. Now they may not be going through the same exercise that you just completed unless they happen to be reading this at the same time you are. Here’s the thing. The great things they enjoyed about you are still in their memory. If you could only get them to replay them, the whole picture might improve.
The good news is, you can get them to recall those good memories, and that should be a critical part of your plan to get them back. Here’s what you do. If you haven’t already, make a brief phone call to them. Not a text message, not a letter, but a brief phone call. (Brief means no more the five minutes in length).
Plan this before hand if possible. Don’t call a beg them to come back or reconcile their differences. Don’t call to cry about the breakup. Call them to see how they are doing. Have and show genuine concern for them. Do not mention or give any hint of the difficulties you’ve gone through.
If they ask, be honest (it the best policy). Let them know you’ve been sad (if that’s true) but you’re coping with it. Within this short phone call, if possible, try to get them to recall one of the highlights in your relationship. Not as a task, but just by you mentioning one of those times.
For example: (use your own words) “I was just remembering that time we _ _ _ _ _ _ _. We really had a great time”. Stop there, don’t go on and on about it.
What this does is begins to turn their focus to the positives. In the conversation, let them know it’s okay to keep in touch because of your concerns about their welfare and you still care about them.
Notice, there’s no mention of, “let’s get back together again”, etc. Just how are you doing, I was remembering, and if you want to, let’s keep in touch.
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God bless you,
Chris
