Making Marriage Work
You probable know that the most common reason couples split is when one partner is unfaithful to the other. The next most common grounds for divorce are couples who have trouble communicating and resolving marital conflicts with each other. This is followed by couples who are unable to exist together because of emotional or physical abuse, drug addiction, financial problems or when a spouse is a workaholic.
We each have our own thoughts of what a perfect spouse relationship should look like. But often times it happens, when the reality of living together sets in we realize that this is not the same as we had visualized. Usually little behavior patterns or habits begin to bother us, such as your partner not calling to let you know that they’re running late or they don’t pick up after themself.
No doubt, We will begin to recognize our partners imperfections as we see them in the morning light when they first get up out of bed. It’s inevitable that we’ll begin to take our partner for granted if we are not careful.
When you first fell in love with this person, it’s natural to anticipate a never-ending joy, but love goes deeper than this. Love is kind, playful, forgiving, caring and it admitts doing wrong. Love is never self-serving, hurtful or full of contempt. This means that you’ll support and encourage each other through the bad times as well as the good times.
Bad relationships never become better by them selves. Most couples can be successful at making marriage work by just learning how to communicate, thus having the ability to survive and grow.
It’s absolutely necessary to compromise in order to resolve marital conflicts and life’s ever changing circumstances will always require adjustment.
Most couples get married without any prior education or training, other than observing others. This is not a subject that is taught in schools. Where do we learn about marital relationships, family or friends?
Since 51% of all marriages end in divorce, how are we to break the cycle if our parents and most of our friends have either been through a divorce or never have been married?
Most spouses need to develop and learn these necessary skills for marriage through books, pastoral counseling or a comprehensive enhance my marriage guide. Is it worth it?
Couples in general, spend more money on a yearly vacation then they would educating themselves about marital bliss. Making your marriage good again is worth it, and a lot cheaper than getting divorced.
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