Broken Hearted? Tips to Get Back Together with Your Ex Girlfriend
Has your relationship with your girlfriend seemingly come to an end? Do you think it may be over forever but you’re not sure? Do you still want her back? I know it’s hard to admit that she really walked out but the reality is she’s not there now.
Have you come to the realization that it really happened? Now you find yourself wondering how you can get her back. I want to assure you it IS possible to get her back. What’s important is that you make a plan to do what will be most effective to pave the way for a successful reconciliation.
This article is about some of the important steps you can take that will be most likely to lead to a successful reunion. Our human nature would tell us to immediately call her and try to patch things up. While on the surface that sounds like a good thing to do, it might bring about the total opposite of what you want.
Instead, based on many many case studies, here’s the best recommendation. Cool it. That’s right, don’t reach for the phone, instead let her wonder how you’re doing and wait for her call. Take some time for yourself to search your memory of the things that led up to the breakup.
Guy’s are normally eighty to ninety percent logic and only about ten to twenty percent emotional. What your mind is saying is, “just fix it”. Tell her you’re sorry and everything will be fine. In the long run, that just doesn’t accomplish your goal. It’s like smoothing it over without solving the underlying problems.
Now do a little soul searching. As for yourself, do you really love her or do you just not want to be alone? If you really love her, your desire would be to do things which would create an environment in your relationship to enrich her life. You’d be thinking about her, not about yourself.
For now, give her some space. She’s also thinking about you. Maybe she’s considering she made a mistake in walking out of your relationship. Maybe she’s thinking about the negative things that occurred in the relationship and blaming herself or she’s glad it’s behind her. Whatever, good or bad, she’s thinking about you and wondering what she should do next.
Be thinking about the next time you talk to each other. Yes, there will be a next time and you need to prepare for it. Plan your strategy now. She may call you yet today. It may be tomorrow, or next week, or a month from now. When you talk, above all, don’t be desperate. You’ll want to be a little bit standoffish. You want to have her wondering a little bit as to if you’re doing okay, is there someone else, do you really want to get back together.
Now let’s talk about your feelings. Are you feeling like you’ll be okay, or are you lonely? Are you hurting? Are you longing to get her back? These are all natural feelings. Get with friends or family members and talk about it. Cry your heart out with them if you need to, but not with her. Whatever you do, do not start chasing her.
Wait at least two to three weeks. If you haven’t heard from her, you might consider calling her just to check on her. Show your concern for her. Don’t let it be a long conversation. Three to five minutes should be the maximum. You’re not wanting to discuss fixing things, you just sincerely want to know if she’s okay. If necessary, make a reason to cut the conversation short.
Let her know the lines of communication are still open and that she can call you if she likes. When you talk again, you’ll want to still be a bit detached. What you’re doing is setting the stage for reconciliation to take place. In the meantime, stay a little aloof. I said, “a little”. Don’t overdo it.
While all this is going on use the time to consider what really led to the breakup. If there was an argument, what brought it on and what was it about? Which of her needs were not being met? What, in the future, can you do to overcome the problems?
There is always a second chance. Don’t lose heart. There is a lot of information available to help you get back together. If you’d like a great book on the subject that will provide really great and in-depth information to really help you, you can get it here.
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