Broken Hearted? – Save Your Marriage
We see so many marriages today that are in serious trouble. It seems like the answer is frequently divorce. Is that the best way to handle the problems? The answer in about ninety-eight of the cases is, “no”. Don’t just reach for the phone book to look up a divorce attorney. Let’s step back for a moment and think this through.
What are the alternatives? Ask yourself; can I save my marriage? Answer: there’s a very good chance you can. The fist step is counseling. This gives you an a chance to share the issues with an impartial third party and get some recommendations and advice.
Besides utilizing a counselor, there are other options to explore to try to save the marriage. It doesn’t have to be difficult either. The first step is getting both husband and wife to agree to work toward a mutually agreed upon goal.
The ultimate goal is to not only save the marriage, but to bring about a successful solution resulting in a happy and rewarding life. Below are several proven paths to consider to bring about the fulfillment you both desire.
If you are looking for a “perfect marriage” I caution you, the likelihood of attaining perfection is extremely low. The reason is, people are not perfect. However, to attain a happy and successful marriage with wonderful rewards is within the reach of most couples.
The key is to recognize yours and your mate’s shortcomings and learn how to deal with them (both yours and theirs). This in itself can be a marriage “saver”. When you accept that as a true fact you’ll begin to develop a new perspective for your relationship.
Here’s a real key. Be willing to work on developing and improving your communication skills (habits). The words, facial expressions, body language, voice inflection etc. all contribute to healthy or unhealthy communication. Be honest and open with your spouse. Develop, or redevelop, an interest in their interests. Work together for the common good of each other.
One vital trait we can develop is the ability to compromise. That’s the give and take of a relationship which leads to understanding, admiration, the feeling of being loved, and the feeling of loving. The ability to both give and expect is a strong quality found in successful marriages.
Now let’s talk about the heart of your marriage. The heart in your body has the greatest influence on the health of your body. Your heart is committed to beating about 100,000 per day pumping your lifeblood to every organ in your body. That’s real commitment. And that should be the heart of your marriage, commitment.
Without total commitment the heart of your marriage is unhealthy. Focus on commitment to saving your marriage. Work on improving communication, developing the ability to compromise, and stay committed to these and your marriage and your love for each other will pay great dividends to each of you.
This is one of a series of articles I’ve written. Most are based on a book titled: “The Magic of Making Up.” It’s a great resource and I highly recommend it. More information about the book and the author is available here now.
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